What happens when you drop the mask?


Hey Reader,

Lately, I’ve been reflecting a lot on the whole concept of masking. Ever since I received my ADHD diagnosis later in life, I’ve realized I’ve spent so much time trying to fit into this supposed "normal" mold (like, what does 'normal' even mean, anyway?). If you don't know, masking is when someone with ADHD tries to present themselves in a way that hides the fact that they’re navigating life with ADHD so that they can "fit in". It goes by other names like “impression management” or “camouflaging,” but honestly? It’s a coping mechanism that helps us blend in and sidestep the stigma. Ugh, I can’t even begin to tell you how much of that I’ve done over the years!

So, once I got that ADHD diagnosis, I began the process of unmasking. And let me tell you, it really is a journey and not a sprint. It feels like an ongoing adventure full of ups and downs, and sometimes I wonder if it’ll ever reach an endpoint! It hasn't been easy but it has been totally worth it.

As I go through this unmasking process, I’m uncovering so many layers of who I truly am—like my deep passion for art and creativity in all shapes and sizes. There’s something so magical about watching someone pour their heart into creating just for the sheer joy of it, and that fills me with such happiness! Discovering this vibrant side of myself—without feeling weighed down by a mask—has become a really important part of my journey. I wouldn’t have tapped into this part of me without embracing my ADHD and taking off that mask!

If masking is something you see in yourself and are exploring the idea of unmasking, I'd recommend starting small. Pick one area of your life where you feel safe enough to drop the mask. It could be amongst friends, diving into a creative hobby, or simply sharing your unique thoughts and feelings more openly. Trust me, every tiny step you take will lead you closer to discovering your authentic self!

As for me, I’m starting to embrace things that bring me joy and sharing them without apology with people who matter—like you! That’s why I'm sharing this dance video I stumbled upon recently that I can’t stop watching. The creativity, the athleticism, and the sheer artistry of it all is just mesmerizing to me. I hope you find it just as captivating!

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Thanks so much for being here with me, Reader. Your support means the world to me.

Until next time,
Michelle


Living and THRIVING with ADHD!

Hey there! I'm Michelle! I'm a Certified ADHD Life Coach and Executive Function Coach. I’m not here to sugarcoat things, or give you a bunch of salesy stuff—my newsletters are real, raw, and packed with the kind of insights and strategies you probably won't find in many places. Expect a healthy dose of humour, a sprinkle of tough love, and a whole lot of practical strategies to help you navigate life with ADHD. In my corner of the internet, you’ll find no-nonsense strategies, tips and tricks, real talk and honest conversations about the ups and downs of living with ADHD. Combine that with a dash of humour because sometimes, you just need to laugh. Join me if you’re ready for a refreshingly honest approach to ADHD. I’m excited to share what I’ve learned and support you in creating a life that works for you.

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